I’m Damian; a potty mouthed, wine guzzling, too honest for my own good, (and most importantly) adoptive Dadi.

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My partner, Andrew, and I adopted our twin boys a little over two years ago, and wow, did our lives change forever! I mean, for the better, of course, but those little rugrats turned up! and two years in, I still have no idea what I am doing.

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I worried that when becoming a parent, I’d lose myself, my identity, and have to change the things I loved and had passion for before to ‘fit in’. The perception of Dad’s is a tricky one; “dadvertising” would have you believe we are either suited and booted providers, often absent, with a sprinkle of toxic masculinity thrown in for good measure or clumsy and foolish yet presentable and optimistic egalitarian oafs.

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Then there is the LGBTQ+ community, and they love to squeeze you into a good old box; Twink? Daddy? Bear? Otter? Jock?

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What if I just wanted to be me and worse still, do all the things I still liked doing while being a parent, a gay parent? Do you think that would be alright?

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So, having penned articles and blogs for Gay Boy Bible, Adoption UK and Adoption Wales, as well as featured on podcast The Adoption and Fostering Podcast, I thought, why not pull all those together into one spot and write about my loves – family, relationships, lifestyle and my beloved LGBTQI+ community.